What does Thriving mean for you?
What does it look like in your life?
During my recent Tantra Immersion at Kripalu where I taught with three amazing Tantric scholars, I opened the weekend with a talk about our longing to be happy.
I expressed that I believe strongly that happiness is what follows when you align with your true purpose.
But the next day one of the scholars politely acknowledged my comment on happiness and raised me one. He said, “The true purpose of Tantra and of life is not just to be happy, but to thrive.”
I’ve been reflecting every day on the idea of thriving and I realize that it’s a more evolved and complex state of being—worthy of exploration. Happiness seems to come and go. I’ve taught before about finding a way to discover “unreasonable happiness,” which is happiness for no reason at all. I believe thriving in life is like that.
Thriving is when you are living full out, not holding anything back, and living on purpose.
To thrive, you have to pay attention to all aspects of your being – body, mind, and heart. There’s a way to be in life such that everything in it nourishes your soul.
It all depends on your attitude; attitude is power. Our attitudes arise from our belief systems. If you believe that life has your back and that everything in life happens for your awakening, then most likely you are thriving.
But so often we get caught by life. When we’re faced with a challenge or fear, we resist or give up.
Getting caught in life is very much like swimming in a lake (which I enjoy doing in the late Spring and Summer here in the Berkshires!).
Anyone who’s ever swum in the lakes in the Berkshires knows that most of the lakes are shallow and that tons of weeds grow close to shore. After swimming through the weeds for over 30 years, I’ve learned that if I fight with the weeds and tense up, the weeds grab me and I feel like I’m being pulled down by the Loch Ness Monster.
To make it through, you must relax, swim a bit slower, and become more fluid. When this happens, the weeds fall away, and your body will slide right through the thickest of weeds.
To thrive, you have to draw on a strength and power deeper than yourself.
Thriving takes being connected to the innermost depth of your longing.
Here are a few contemplations to help you untangle yourself from self-limiting beliefs, so you can shift into an attitude of thriving:
1. Take a comfortable seat and close your eyes. Take a few deep breaths and allow your mind to settle. Once calm, direct your awareness into your heart.
2. Reflect on what holds you back. What self-limiting beliefs do you repeat over and over in your mind? What gets in the way of your ability to thrive?
3. Once you identify one or two limiting beliefs, take a couple more breaths. Instead of insisting on letting them go, just be with the limiting beliefs for a few moments. Chill out. Become more fluid. One of my limiting beliefs is self-doubt. I doubt my own ability sometimes and question whether I have what it takes to do something. I know this isn’t true. But still, this is the weed that grabs me from time to time.
4. Make space around your limiting belief. If you want to let it go, you first have to let it be. Just hang out with your limiting belief without resisting it or judging yourself.
In a very short time, you’ll notice that this belief isn’t who you really are.
5. Now affirm what you really want and who you really are. Make a simple, positive, “I am” affirmation statement and repeat it to yourself three times. For instance, “I, Todd, have the power to manifest my dreams. I, Todd, have the power to manifest my dreams. I, Todd, have the power to manifest my dreams.”
To go more in-depth into how to thrive, join me for my upcoming In-Depth Study/200-Hour Yoga Teacher Training. This life-changing training begins in September in Lenox, Massachusetts and continues in December, March, and May. In addition to showing you how to teach yoga, I will teach you a life-transforming practice of Tantra Yoga, mantra, pranayama, and meditation that has a truly uplifting philosophy and reveals the secrets for how to thrive in life.
You deserve to thrive!
I look forward to seeing you there or at another upcoming workshop:
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